"Could I fully express my gratitude for Coach Monica? When I joined Monica’s Daring Way workshop in spring 2016, I had what many would perceive as a perfectly successful career and nice life. But deep in my heart, I knew I was holding back from doing what I really wanted to do and being truly myself.
I had read my fair share of self-help books, include Brené Brown’s Gifts of Imperfection. I had watched quite a few inspirational videos on YouTube, including Brené’s TED talk on vulnerability. I had even participated in various half- and full-day personal development seminars. While every book, video, and event was informative and inspiring, regular life resumed too quickly, comfortable old ways returned predictably, and I was left with ideas and plans like memorabilia from lovely vacations.
I now know that our thought patterns and habits are terrible resistant to change. Many of them are developed over decades and are continually being reinforced. Over our eight-week journey, Monica gently guided us to become deeply aware of the thoughts and assumptions that hold us back and keep us small. With greater awareness of the things that limit us, we began to acknowledge them, then make intentional choices about what we wish to change.
Every workshop session was enlightening, challenging, and powerful. I really enjoyed the opportunities we had to recognize our innate capacity for authenticity, listen to our own inner wisdom, and celebrate our unique set of strengths. Some of the experiences were less pleasant, like owning up to our hurtful self-talk, examining our deepest wounds, and accepting our shame triggers. But I wouldn’t change any part of the workshop because I gained so much self-compassion and fearlessness in return.
I am grateful to my fellow Daring Wayers who witnessed my experiences of joy and pain with full presence every time we met. They honored me by sharing their own experiences so honestly and openly. Through talking and listening together over eight weeks, I learned that every one of us feel “less than” and “not enough” at some time, for some reason; and still, we can choose how to show up and be with ourselves at those times.
Over the two months, with loving support from Monica and the group, I began to turn knowing into being. I am now charting my own career path, choosing work not for the status symbol or by some external measure of success, but in alignment with my inner calling and inspiration. I used to approach everything so carefully to minimize chances of something going awry, and sometimes I ended up not trying at all. Now I take more chances, put myself out there despite (or, because of) the uncertainty, and trust in life’s beautiful surprises and my inner resilience.
Drunken monkeys continue to live in my head and create self-doubt daily. I still feel the familiar pull to please others, but I’m refusing to betray myself just to fit in. I’m thinking big. I’m going for it. I’m a little nervous, but mostly excited. Thank you Monica, for more than words can say!"